Thursday, February 16, 2017

3 Areas of Mistakes in a Marriage

“My marriage doesn’t have any problems in it.” Have you ever heard someone say something crazy like that? Or have you ever slipped up and said it to someone to try to impress them? I hope not! All marriages have their problems. All marriages have ups and downs. But what do you do to make sure these problems don’t continue? Do you sit there after time has passed and just think you have gotten over it? Do you sit and talk about the mistake and work out a solution of how not to allow the mistake to happen again?

Let’s see what the 3 areas are:

1)   Communication. This is a key area that a lot of marriages lack major. “I don’t want to talk to her because she talks at me instead of to me.” “I don’t want to talk to him because he never listens.” You have to take time to listen to each other. No person is better than the other in a marriage.  1) Never talk to each other in a heated moment. Nothing will get established.  2) There is nothing wrong with scheduling a time to talk. This helps because both of you can have undivided attention to the other person.  3) Listen! You can hear what I’m saying but are you listening. If the both of you listens, then this will never be a problem any more. Oh, and put those electronic devices down while you’re with each other. Catch it!

2)   Finances. “That’s my money so I have a right to spend what I want.” “I’m not worried about paying any bills because you only live once.” Yeah, these things are said in a marriage. But, when you partner with someone in a business, to keep the business going, you bring your funds TOGETHER to make it work. You don’t have to put all of the money together but put up the percentage that’s going to work. 1) Sit down and put ALL of the bills in front of you. FACE THE REALITY! 2) Come up with a budget that is going to work for the both of you.  3) Go back and review it every 60 days.  You don’t have to a million dollars in the bank to feel like a millionaire.

3)   Trust.  I don’t trust him because he cheated on me.” “I don’t trust her because she always be-little my manhood and not encourage me.” Where did the level drop in this area? If you can’t trust your spouse, then it’s hard to trust anyone else. Go back and see where the ball dropped in this area and pick back up where you BOTH left off.  Watch only in your area and allow your husband to watch in the area that caused the distance. Work on yourself. Don’t focus so much on what he is doing to make it right. Just make sure that you are starting to gain his trust back and then he will start to gain yours back. This can also tie in with communication!

These areas are key in any marriage and you don’t want them to continue to come up.  Make. Your. Marriage. Work! For you and your spouse only, no one else.

And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8 KJV

Until next time,

Monday, February 6, 2017

10 Guy Gift Ideas for Valentine's Day

Yes, ladies, February 14th is right around the corner.  Are you going to get him a gift? Are you wondering what to get him? Don't be selfish and wonder if he is getting you a gift. Just give him something to show your appreciation to him. You know he has gotten you gifts and you didn't have him anything. 

Here's a list of some nice male gift ideas to give him.

A Tool Kit. 
Every man wants to feel powerful when he has to fix something. Well, get him a tool kit where he will have all the necessary tools handy.

A Spa Treatment.
Tension. Knots. Tiredness. Soreness. They experience those things too. Grab a gift certificate to a spa (just for him) to relax and enjoy his self.

A Gift Card to His Favorite Store.
Not sure what to get him out of his favorite store? Well, just let him go in and get what he wants. Let him control it.

A Razor Kit.
The tools he need to groom his self everyday should be right there at his finger tips. Hey, he wants to look good too. Nothing better than a fresh and clean shave, ladies.

A Monogrammed Piece of Jewelry.
There is nothing better than seeing a special message or even a special date on a piece of jewelry. A ring. A watch. A bracelet.

There's nothing better than having a good smelling man next to you. Go out and pick up a cologne set that he likes.

A Monogrammed Work Bag.
He needs a new briefcase and/or a book bag that he takes to work everyday.  Have his name monogrammed on the bag

iPad. Bluetooth Headphones. Upgrade on his cell phone. Keep him up to date with the latest technology gadget to help him out on the go.

Bath Set.
A nice robe. Slippers. Massage pillow. A man likes to feel nice to after he has had a nice hot shower. Want to add a little something extra to it? Monogram it!

A Beer Gift Basket.
Grab his favorite beer and snacks. Create a basket that is filled with all of his favorites and allow him to indulge in it!

Have fun ladies and trust me, he will appreciate the gift and the thought!

                                                         Until next time,


Friday, February 3, 2017

Strength in the Toughest Times

Have you ever wondered why so many hard days come while being married verses easy days?  When you think you have gotten over a situation, come to realize that the situation is still day.  Why does it have to be so hard? There are some days where you just don't want to be bothered by anyone or anything, especially your husband.  No matter what he says, you just don't want to be bothered.

You go to the checking account and find there is no money in the bank because he went and used the bank card to buy something stupid.

He is still leaving his clothes and trash in the middle of the floor. You know he has done it because it's a trail of his work.

He raised his voice at you.  He didn't do what he said he was going to do.

Communicating with him is like talking to a brick wall.

He said the wrong thing that turned the conversation into an argument and it's being done in front of the kids.

He hit you. He cheated on you.

How do you overcome these tough situations? Can you overcome these situations? How do you look at the situation(s)?  Do you attack it as it attacks you and your marriage? Or do you pray about it and allow God to move that "mountain" out of your way? But how do you handle it with your spouse? Simple, talk "to" each other and not "at" each other. Sometimes talking it out can resolve the situation. Before you begin talking, pray with each other. You know you can build off of each other. Once you start talking to each other, you come up with a plan to make sure that whatever happen, doesn't happen any more.

Marriage is not easy but you can make it better. Things happen but it doesn't have to bring it down to a crumbling level. Somebody in the marriage has to be the strong one. It's hard but it can be you. Both parties have a lot to deal with in the marriage. Man - providing for his family. Woman - taking care of the family and the house.

Things that can help you stay strong:
  • Prayer
  • Continue to love on your spouse
  • Supportive groups (people that won't tell your business and that you trust wholeheartedly)
  • Reading Devotionals

The stronger you and your husband are together in the marriage, the tighter the bond is. Keep telling yourself that nothing can tear it down!

Until next time,