Monday, July 25, 2016

What can Prayer do in a Marriage?

Hey, you and your husband are no longer two, you're one. Remember when you both made a vow before God and others, you officially accepted the fact that you are now "joined" together as one. Whether it's been your first year of marriage or twenty-five years, you have done what this post is about: PRAYER! But have you ever wondered what prayer can do to your marriage?

Let's see:

1) Prayer invites God into your marriage.  Having God as the foundation and center of your marriage is a necessity. Because without Him, there will be no marriages. There is nothing better than having an open level of communication with Christ. He ordained marriage, so why not go to Him about yours.

2) Prayer invites understanding into your marriage.  There have been times when you just don't understand why your husband would do this and that. God will give you peace that surpasses ALL understanding. Things will become clear of why your husband won't pick up that dirty sock from the floor. But it's not all just the husband, it's you also! Whoops...

3) Prayer invites submission into your marriage.  Yes, the "S" word, submission! When you submit to God about your marriage, you can then submit to your husband with no questions asked.

4) Prayer invites being a great example to others.  When you allow God to lead and guide you in your marriage and everyday life, the light of God while shine. Showing public affection. Showing real love. Showing that the small things matter in the marriage. Showing that God is in your marriage. Other will see it and wonder what do you have that they need in their marriage.

5) Prayer invites intimacy into your marriage.  God will show you many ways to be intimate with your spouse than just the physical part of intimacy. It will come through true love and understanding. This will also help you be submissive unto your husband without it being a burden.

6) Prayer invites unity into your marriage. God is not the author of confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33 KJV), but of peace. There is nothing better than the feeling of being unified with your spouse. When it's done between you two, then your children will be able to see it.

Prayer is an open communication line with God, that is never busy. If one is praying in the marriage, there is hope. But when two come together and pray, a mighty move of God will come and shift not only the atmosphere, but the marriage for the better.

Until next time,

Friday, July 22, 2016

30 Day Relationship Challenge

Try this! Have fun! 30 Day Relationship Challenge! 

Monday, July 18, 2016

Certain Lists to have in a Marriage

So am I the only one that have about 10 lists through out the week to make my life simple and it's still a hectic mess?!?!? What's the purpose of the lists? The lists honestly reminds me of things I need to do. Well, have you ever thought about having lists for your marriage? What kind of lists are those? Well, I'm glad you asked. 

1) Bucket List
Now some may have this personally for themselves but you should have one for your marriage. Sit down with your spouse and make a bucket list of wild and fun things you should do together. 

2) Goal List
It's important to have a goal list for your marriage. This will give the marriage an opportunity to grow and become better, not only as an individual but as a partnership. 

3) To-Do List
A list of items to do at that present moment and in the future. (i.e. count to 10 before responding in anger; pray for yourself, spouse, and marriage). 

4) Trash List
A list of toxic things that are causing harm in your marriage. You don't want to hold on to these things because they are no good. 

5) Self-Check List
Outside of your personal check list, check yourself in your marriage. If you see that you are doing the same thing in your marriage and it's not getting better, then it is time for a self-check list. You both are there to make each other better not worse. 

Start making your lists today! 

Until next time, 

Friday, July 15, 2016

The Perfect Lingerie

Whether you like to go and purchase a special piece of lingerie for a special evening or you have a drawer full of them that is collecting dust, how do you know you have gotten the perfect lingerie. Does your husband like lace and see through? Does your husband have a specific color? Does your husband like lingerie at all? How does it make you feel when you have it on? So many questions but so little answers. Well, let's see how you can pick out the "perfect lingerie".

The Peek-a-boo special.
It's black. It's lace. It's covering the areas you want to surprise him with. It's fits just right. The girls sit up perfectly. The back end, well let's just say, a little cheek action is always good. 

The "I am your wife and I love you a lot" gown.
It's a soft relaxing color. It's short. It's silk. It flares. It says take your time with me and enjoy. Almost reminds you of your wedding night lingerie.

The Birthday suit special.
Take your robe. Seal it tightly so there are no peek-a-boo areas. Allow him to unfasten the robe and see the light of your glory!

T-shirt and panties only.
Take one of his t-shirts and grab a pair of thongs or lace boxers (with the cheeks out) and stand in front of him to grab his attention. Hey something else will be at attention when he sees you.

The button down shirt only.
Take an old button down shirt of his and only fasten 4 of the buttons. Preferably the ones in the center of the shirt and roll up the sleeves.

Lingerie is there to allure the woman and excite the man. Funny thing, just count how many minutes you will have it on after he sees it.

Until next time,

Monday, July 11, 2016

6 Positive Aspects in my Life I Appreciate!

In life as we grow older, there are certain areas in life that we start to appreciate. We face A LOT and we come across good and bad challenges. I have six key aspects in my life that I don't take lightly and it helps me to be a better person.

1) My Faith.  No matter how tough life gets, I will always depend on my faith. I do know that the Word of God doesn't lie, so I know that He won't put more on me than I can bare. Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1 KJV). I speak things as though they were!

2) Support from my husband and son. I am a busy girl and sometimes I am all over the place. But having the support of my husband and my son means the world to me. I am involved in so many things and sometimes it will take priority on the family calendar. But to see them both in my corner and out in the audience when I am performing (in any aspect) makes me feel special.

3) Real friends. Boy do you soon learn who is in your corner and who isn't.  It goes far beyond the meaning of "finding out who your real friends are".  I don't use people and I don't want any one using me. But when I find out that you are just using me to benefit you and I get nothing out of it, then I'm sorry but I can't consider you as a friend. I have gone to the rescue for so many and I end up in the smoke. Then there are some that don't like my husband but consider themselves as still "my friend". I don't see how that is possible. But one thing is for sure, I don't have to say one thing to them. God shows me the real person that they are and He removes them from me. I don't mind not having a long extensive list of friends. I'm good with the nice number of seven (7).  The ones that have been here with me, through it all, and I mean through it all, I thank you and I don't take it lightly.  As I mentioned in my post regarding the 3 P's in my life, it's making my life better to know who is for me and who isn't.

4) Networking. It's not necessarily the beginning of a friendship, but the beginning of a career path of where both parties will benefit. Since I became a blogger and in other areas of career path over the years, I have networked with many that we both excel. The saying "team work makes the dream work" is very true and everyone's dreams comes true! I come across many in different areas of life and just add them in my life puzzle to help me complete it.

5) Prayer. A direct way of communicating with God is the best feeling in the world. My sorority sister said "the blood that was shed for us all is the line that connects us to God to communicate with Him".  That speaks volume. Sometimes we can't get family and friends but we can ALWAYS get God. A prayer life is a MUST! I'm not ashamed to pray in public. I can be in a crowd of people and pray at the same time; and they not know when or what I'm doing. It all comes from the heart. I'm thankful for the opportunity to have a direct line to communicate with God.

6) A Career I Love. Having a job is a blessing. Having a career that you can help not only yourself but others, and see the blessing, IS even more of a BLESSING! I left a position in corporate America that I have been in for over fifteen (15) years and I took a leap of FAITH and I started working for the non-profit organization for the church. Trust me, my life is so much better now and less stress! It's all worth it and I love my career choice.

Sit down and take a look over your life and write down the most positive aspects in your life. It's so worth it and makes you appreciate the small things in your life.

Until next time,

Friday, July 8, 2016

A Date with Great Music.

So there had been talk around town that there is a new adult hangout in town. Great music. Great food. Great fun. So who wouldn't want to try something out life that? My hubby made plans to take me to The Perfect Note in Hoover, Alabama, on Friday, June 10, 2016, after I had a busy week with church activities. I thought that was so nice and considerate of him. He received tickets from a friend to attend on this particular evening

The Perfect Note is a fine dining restaurant that features a live jazz band. The special guest that evening was Jazz Bassist Michael Manson from Chicago, IL.  He didn't tell me where we were going but I knew it was something nice because he had been talking about it all day. So, I went and purchased something cute and comfortable to wear. I wanted to look like a lady and sexy too. Sometimes ladies, you just have to remind your hubby that he has a LADY and SEXINESS all in one package. 

On a scale of 1-10, I will give The Perfect Note a 6. The only reason they are getting that is because the entertainment was wonderful.  The food was not good and the waiter we had was not pleasant at all.  I ordered the chicken and waffle plate.  Beautifully decorated and presented well. BUT, the chicken was not good and it was too greasy.  It was almost like they reheated the patties in grease. You get 3 chicken patties and 3 triangle waffle pieces with candied pecans and strawberries.  There was also powdered sugar and whip cream on the waffles as well.  It was not good at all.  Many ordered it but maybe I got a bad batch because grease was still heavily in the patty. 

So I asked my waiter if I could order something else because I didn't like it, he gave me a rude look as if he didn't care nor did he believe me. I received another menu and order the hot wings.  Let's just say I ate part of one and took the remaining home. It came with 10 and presented well, once again.  But even my husband tasted it and he said it doesn't taste right. So I didn't want to bother the waiter anymore because he just seemed as he was not into our table.  Hubby ordered the roasted chicken with mashed and roasted sauce.  It smelled horrible. The chicken was burnt and the sauce had a yellow look to it but it was supposed to be brown.  It just wasn't pleasant and it made me lose my appetite. I wanted to leave but I really wanted to hear the music guest. But I made the best of the evening because he made plans and I didn't want to spoil the evening. 

We did get the opportunity to get a dance in together and he even sung to me.  I felt sooooooo loved!! I enjoyed the music a lot.  It brought happiness. It brought a moment of sadness. It brought a feeling that no matter what is going on around me, I'm relaxing and taking in every moment. It was my type of music.  We did grab a bite at Steak N Shake.  On the ride back home, it was nice and peaceful.  

I'm not giving up on The Perfect Note because I love good, live music. But I do think the next time I attend, I will eat prior to attending. I just don't want to be disappointed again. Hopefully, they will consider making a better menu and ordering food from a vendor that's worth it and not go the cheaper route in cutting the customer short. But it still didn't take away from the great evening I had with my hubby.  We both were ALL SMILES at the end of the evening. 

Until next time, 

Tuesday, July 5, 2016

Happy 4th Blogiversary!!

4 years in the making and still counting!  4 years in blogging about my journey of being a wife and a woman! 4 years in learning how I have helped married women or soon to be married women make their journey a great one! 4 years in networking with other bloggers and attending many events to become a better blogger! 4 years in creating a brand that is a non-judgmental zone for wives.


Some didn't get past 4 months but I am here to make this journey of blogging one to get better and be like no other. I am creating a brand that wives don't have to be skeptical to where they will be judged about anything. I create ideas. I create happiness. I create joy. I create laughter. I create a brand where women can say they are proud to be a part of the Being A Wife Network.

Speaking of the Being A Wife Network, this was created on September 1, 2015, to allow the conversations of wives to continue on a regular basis through our Facebook group. It is still connected to the blog BUT the interaction is live and exciting everyday. I learned to separate the group page from the blog business page so the content won't be out of place. It won't have my guests wondering. It was a great idea. I can't believe that we are coming up on our one year anniversary of the network page.


1) New look on the website. I am working on owning my own domain and creating a website page that you and I both could interact more on a regular basis. Over the last few years, I have only had what my budget would allow me to have for my blogging business. Great things are happening and I can't wait to introduce it to you and the world.

2) More events. Hey planning 2 or 3 events for the blog is a big goal but achievable. These events can range from a luncheon to a major couple conference. The right venue is difficult to find but it is possible.

3) Creating more wear.  In year 3, we created a shirt that showcases our hashtag motto,  #BeingAWife. It was a great response to the wives. There are so many other items that I am creating with manufacturers to produce for the blog business. There is even a notebook and writing utensils in the making.

4) Stay consistent. I try to keep my editorial calendar handy and make the posts as schedule but LIFE HAPPENS!! But I am starting early to keep up with the calendar and work hard for my blogging business. If I don't appreciate it, then why should any one else. Creating content for the blog isn't the hard part, but staying on top of things is. I will create a team that will make this happen and create content that you can enjoy everyday.

Let's celebrate year 4 and make it GRAND!

Until next time,

Monday, July 4, 2016

Happy Fourth of July!

Today, is the most patriotic day of our country. Today,  is the day where we celebrate the day of when our country declared it's independency. Today, is the day where we pull out the grill and fireworks and enjoy time with family and friends. Today, is Independence Day!

Happy Fourth Of July!!

 Until next time,

Friday, July 1, 2016

Hello July!

First, let me say that I really enjoyed my birthday on June 29th.  The kids and staff at the camp I work at made my day so enjoyable. I am still receiving gifts. Of course, my two guys at home (husband and son) made my day special too.  Each of the kids for the camp made me personal cards with a special message in them. That was the highlight of the day! Almost really brought me to tears!! I am still receiving gifts which is a blessing.

July is HERE!! The seventh month of 2016. We have already passed the half way mark of the year. Can you believe it? This year is in full speed. I'm not sure if that is a good or bad thing. July is the month where we celebrate the independence of our country. Also, a lot of family reunions take place this month. Wedding anniversaries are very high this month (including mine-07-10). And, the BLOGIVERSARY of The Journey of Being A Wife is July 5th! Four (4) years and counting. I love blogging and I love the excitement it brings with it.

I will introduce my four (4) TOP GOALS for my blog on anniversary day. So stay tuned!

But hello July! Make sure you are good to me!

Until next time,