Wednesday, February 24, 2016

Recap - Imperfectly Perfect...Know Your Worth Conference

I had the opportunity to attend a conference hosted by the Founder of The Confessions of Being a Lady, Victoria Long on Saturday, February 20. It was held at the Vestavia Library (Library in the Forest) and it was great. The theme for this conference was Imperfectly Perfect...Know Your Worth. This ministry is for the purpose to encourage women that have been in any type of abusive relationship (family, friends, marriage, dating, and work). You may see the outside of a person, but you don't know what it going on, on the inside of them. Ms. Victoria Long was a victim of domestic and verbal abuse. So her goal is to bring this awareness to the open and encourage ladies that you can get out of the situation and live life freely. The phrase for the event was: Worth can't be given. Worth can't be taken away. Your worth is your own. Know you worth, then love it! That's powerful! 

There were some great vendors there at the conference and they had great products. We had Younique, Scentsy, Paparazzi Jewelry, Avon, Health Wellness, and our very own, The Confessions of a Lady Boutique.  There were also some great door prizes that were given out (two free hair appointments, Imperfectly Perfect tote bags and t-shirts, Jewelry, make-up tote bage, scentsy items, and so much more). It was a great time during the giveaways. People, such as myself, didn't expect to get anything, but we did! Oh, and the food, was great! Light and very tasteful. The decoration even complimented the theme and style of the event. 

Now, let's get to the event.

Ms. Dawn Tellis gave us some great and powerful words through her "Spoken Word" moment. She was also a victim of domestic abuse and she writes about how she overcame the hurting moments of being abused. She even mentioned that her daughter even saw some of the moments of abuse, so she knew she had to get out of there quickly. Not only for herself but for her daughter. She spoke on three pieces of her own work. The first one was titled That Girl. She was that girl that was just trying to see her way outside of her situation. The next one was titled Unspokenly Broken. Her life motto is "keep it moving" . During this, God allowed her to really look deep down on the inside and see herself. But when she escaped, she realize that she was "gracefully chosen". Her last piece was Let go and be free. This was mainly a conversation she had with God. He guided her and told her exactly what to do. 

After that, there was a brief intermission moment of more shopping and refreshments. 

Yummy and who doesn't love to shop. 
I do! After the intermission, it was time to enjoy some more of the special guests. 

The speakers for the event were Mrs. Starnisha Washington, Ms. Camelia Brownlee, and Mrs. Erika Evans. Each lady had their own experience of abuse but they all had something in common, they left the situation. 

Mrs. Washington was a mom at a young age, while still in high school, and had two children before her graduation. She married a man that she loved dearly but he was living a double life. He was married to another woman. Yes, you read it right. While she was married to this guy, he was married to another woman. She suffered with this for ten years. During that time, she and her children even went without water. But she still had to press her way through, for her children. She still carried herself as a lady but was broken on the inside. She then heard the voice of God telling her that He will take care of you. She had then had enough. She left that husband. She was still being abuse by family and friends but then she met her true love.  She has been married to her current husband for five years and between them both, they have six kids and one on the way. Mrs. Washington mentioned to us that her favorite scripture she lives by daily is Jeremiah 29:11. 

Ms. Brownlee is currently a student at Miles College, and a mother of two. She is also Ms. Birmingham for Ms. Plus Size Alabama. Her major at Miles College is Theatre. She was married for five years, then separated for one year. She too faced abuse during her marriage. She really didn’t want to leave her husband but at the same time she didn’t want to continue to go through the abuse. She was able to leave the abusive relationship but the heartache didn’t stop. When she moved out and got an apartment for her and her children, her husband stop paying the car note. The car got repossessed and it was hard to get back and forth. She still had to press her way through. Thankfully she has a great support system through her parents. She is preparing to go into her junior year at school and she is going to continue to live for her children. She also mentioned a great thing to do every morning; have mirror time. Ask yourself these three questions: 1) Who am I? 2) Who am I living for? 3) What do I want out of life?

Mrs. Evans came and put the icing on the cake. She was dealing with the abuse of eating her life away. It was the pain of life that was taking a toll on her. It was never physical abuse but she did have to deal with the process of going through several miscarriages in her first marriage. After a few of them, she was blessed to have a son and a daughter. She was overwhelmed with the heartache in her first marriage she divorced.  She got tired of the cheating. She got tired of the lying. She got tired of the hurt. But strangely, later down the road of life, she married him again. Most women wouldn’t do that, but she was willing to give him another opportunity. But that didn’t last long. After reviewing a text message from another woman (on the husband’s phone), she had had enough. She left before someone got hurt. So her and her children moved on with their lives and then she met her current husband. She too has been married for five years and as she stated “this one is a really good one”.  She made a statement that is very important. She stated “there is a difference in knowing and accepting something. When you accept something, you can change it”.

All of the speakers were wonderful and we all got great information. The key to realizing that there is a problem is that you must admit it. Once you admit it and face it, you can overcome it. Abuse comes in different areas of life and no one has to accept it. Make sure you have a close relationship with God and when He speaks, you will know it.  I learned a lot and was able to feel free after the event. I have never been physically abuse but the mental abuse, has scarred me but I won’t let it stop me from going forward in life. So this was truly something I needed.

Thank you Victoria for this opportunity and this is only the beginning to something great and big in the Magic City (Birmingham, AL).

      Until next time,

Monday, February 15, 2016

Recap...One Destiny Night of Love

On Saturday evening, my husband and I attended the One Destiny Night of Love hosted by Pastors Leon & Tracy Wright. They are the founders of Destined for Greatness Ministry. This event was held at the Trussville Civic Center. It was absolutely lovely. There were couples there from all age range and it was just nice to get out the house. My husband and I enjoyed ourselves. 

I met Pastor Tracy years ago through our jobs. We are both in the real estate market. She is a Real Estate Broker and I am a closing agent. So we have known each other for quite some time. We are also friends through our Facebook network and we keep in contact with each other through that channel. When she posted about the event, I immediately jumped on it and made reservations for my husband and me to attend. My husband was also looking forward to attending, so that made it even better. So guess what that means? DATE NIGHT was officially on the calendar for February 12, 2016, at 6:00 o'clock in the evening. 

Upon arrival, we were greeted and had to complete a registration card of just basic information. That was nice because you want to always stay in contact with your guests. This is a great ministry for couples in general because they showcase how to always love each other and have fun. That's what I'm all about in my marriage, having fun!!  The decoration was beautiful. 

Now to recap my evening Saturday, it went a little something like this: 

1) There were three rules: Rule #1-Have Fun  Rule #2-Have Fun & Rule #3-of course, Have Fun. There were no children allowed and it wasn't based on a church atmosphere, but a NIGHT OF LOVE with your spouse/significant other. 

2) Every Kiss begins with K!! I loved this idea. The object of this was to be affectionate with your spouse in PUBLIC. So you had to look in their eyes and tell them that you loved them and give them a KISS! Oh, I so enjoyed this! 

3) Dancing. Every now and then, it's just nice to slow dance with your mate. Looking into each others eyes. Feeling the electricity between your bodies, YES!! 

4) The FOOD!! Oh my gosh, the food was something like I would cook at home. Baked bar-b-que chicken, mashed potatoes, potato salad, green beans, corn, bread, salad, tea, punch, lemonade, and CAKE! Homemade, by Pastor Tracy's mom, cakes were delicious! 

5) The Newlywed game. This was so cute and funny because the first set of questions were asked by the wives and the second set was asked by the husband. The first set of couples were easy and simple. There was a winner from that group. But the second set, it was just something about the Thomas' and the really cute couple that got every question right and we had to go into what we call a "TIE BREAKER". Very entertaining. 

6) I bet the neighbor knows my name. Now, it is not on that level y'all, so get your mind back on the normal. We just simply went around the room introducing ourselves and telling the room something interesting about our marriage. See, it was the clean

7) Love Bingo. Just like the regular game bingo but about your spouse. You had to put an "X" on spaces such as "if you rub each others feet" or "if you have 3 or more kids". 

But the highlight of the night was when the speakers, Pastor George Johnson, Jr. and, his wife, Kim Johnson, came before us all. The illustration on how something so small and simple can blow up into something big and cause the D word to come out, divorce.  My notes from their presentation are as follows: 
Don't be so quick to give up on love. It's not so easy to start over again. We should be like the children of Israel, WRITE IT DOWN! Whenever you are mad at your spouse, start thinking and calling out some of the good things he or she has done. You don't want to impress others and not impress your spouse. The success of the world is anchored at your marriage. It takes strength to be married. 1) Marriage is a full-time job. You never clock out of your marriage like you would do a regular job. 2) Come into an agreement with each other. You never want to be at differences about or with each other. Nothing is better than a husband and wife being in agreement with each other. 3) Remember the covenant of marriage.  Make a Book of Covenant for your marriage.
I thought their presentation was wonderful. The key scripture Pastor Johnson came from was Mark chapter 4, verse 19, and it says: And the cares of this world and the deceitfulness of riches, and the lusts of other things entering in, choke the word, and it becometh unfruitful.  

The ride back home with hubby was so worth it when we left the event. We talked and we also agreed to start our Book of Covenant for our marriage. What that book is when you write down the good things of the marriage. You write on the good characteristics of your spouse. It is something needed in ALL marriages. It was a great evening and I am truly looking forward to 2017 and bigger and better opportunities for this ministry. Oh and one more thing, they have videos  that give encouragement to other couples. So beneficial y'all. Go check it out! 

Pastors Leon  & Tracy Wright, thank you for this ministry and continue to do what you are doing. See you all next year! 

Until next time, 

Thursday, February 11, 2016

The Confessions of a Lady Interview

Okay, first let me say how honored and excited I am about being a part of this great movement! Just a little story about how this came to life. There was a post on Facebook requesting a blogger to blog for an upcoming event and I immediately jumped on it. The founder of this organization and I communicated back and forth and I have the opportunity to be a guest blogger. I immediately mentioned to her that I wanted to do an interview with her and she said okay with no hesitation.  So I immediately prepped a few questions to ask her regarding her vision and goal for the upcoming event. 

Me: Good morning Victoria. Where did the idea of The Confessions of a Lady come from? 

Victoria: The idea came from JESUS. It was given to me in the midst of things that I was going through in life. I was being cast aside. Looked down upon. Being a victim of physical and mental abuse. No one gave me any chances to come out of any situation. I fell in a deep depression stage and attempted suicide many times. But, in the midst of it all I still prayed to God harder than I ever have in life. Then I came to a realization that there was an issue and I had to face it head on. Through it all, I was still determined to be a BETTER PERSON and OVERCOME my battles. 

Me: What does imperfectly perfect mean and how can someone identify themselves as such? 

Victoria: The background scripture of this comes from Psalm 139:14 - I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.  Don't allow people to tell you who you are. We are all made differently by God! Your imperfections makes you perfect. 

Me: What is your vision behind the event? 

Victoria: My vision behind the event is to bring awareness to the open eye and let women know that they can get out. You are worth something. You are worth your life, health, children, and so much more. Some women get the opportunity to leave domestic issues and some don't. It doesn't matter how the abuse come, sexually, verbally, physically, and mentally. It's one thing to read a book versus to actually face the issue hands on. You have to confess and face your issues. We live in a culture where we have to deal with things and say nothing about it. But it's time for something to be said and for it to be heard. 

Me: Just a couple of more questions and I'm  How did you choose your speakers?

Victoria: Well, Starnisha Washington, I met through a mutual person and her story was just amazing. She is an advocate for working in the community and helping women and she has just inspired me so much. She has a story that needs to be told!  Erika Evans is powerhouse Psalmist and is known for her talent. She can't sing, she can SANG! She has a sweet spirit and I love her dearly. 

Me: Last question. What is your goal to achieve from this event? 

Victoria: To introduce my organization "The Confessions of a Lady" and to bring awareness to the open eye. I am not taking on any position of being ordained but I want to help the next woman out and encouraged them. Abuse can come from any angles in life and no deserves to be abused. 

Me: Well, Victoria, I thank you for your time and I can't wait to attend the event on the February 20th. Thank you so much for your time and have a wonderful day. 

Victoria: You too love! 

That interview, clearly gave me LIFE because I have been in a place of where I wanted to give up on life as well. Little do we know, we are ALL connected some kind of way in life. 

I mentioned to Victoria that not only do I support her vision, but I want to bless a young lady to be able to attend the event. So we will be doing a one-day giveaway to SPONSOR a ticket for a young lady that wants to attend. Stay tuned for that!  I think this is great what she is doing and something as such need to be supported in a POSITIVE way! 

I want to thank Victoria Long for this opportunity and  I look forward to working with her on many more projects to come in the near future.  

Until next time, 

The Sweet "16" Lovers Giveaway winner is...

Our winner in our Sweet "16" Lovers Giveaway is Lisa Dickey!!! 

Thank you to all that participated. 

Stay tuned for another giveaway coming up in a couple of days!!! 

Until the next giveaway, 

Monday, February 8, 2016

Sweet "16" Lovers Giveaway! It's still going on.

Hey, you out there!! Have you registered for the giveaway? What are you waiting on? You don't want to wait until the last minute to register. It's a true saying you know, the early bird gets the worm. This giveaway is just a little something to spice up your Valentine's Day with your husband. Nothing big or fancy. Just something to add to it.

Who likes wine? I do. Especially red wine! Yummy! Not too dry. A little sweetness to it. And chilled just at the right temperature. Sasha Maples Jones, with True Vine Gifts, has sponsored one of her beautiful key chains (that are handmade) called "Wine is for Lovers". This will definitely remind you of your favorite wine you like to have with your husband, that you can carry around every day.

You know what else you can have with your wine? Some nice and sweet chocolate covered strawberries. I love strawberries. It's just something that feels good when you and your husband can feed each other some nice, juicy strawberries. Angel Jones, of Shea's Sweets, has sponsored a dozen of chocolate covered strawberries.

There is just something about a smooth red lipstick on a woman that strikes a man's attention! Wouldn't you agree? I mean my husband likes!! It will also make the woman feel good, not only in looks but moisturizing her lips at the same time! That's what you call a great double team effect. Teresa Thomas is an Independent Beauty Consultant with Mary Kay and she is sponsoring a beautiful red lipstick to accessorize your Valentine's Day plans with the hubby!

Then, of course, turn off the lights and light a candle!! The sun has gone down and your plan filled day has just gone absolutely wonderful for your husband. Now to put the icing on the cake, Trina McCall, of Simply Tempting is sponsoring a vibrating ring that will kick it up an extra notch for the both of you behind closed doors. I mean hey, the girl has to get in on the action as well right? Trust me, you will definitely like this!

Now the fun and the loving doesn't stop there. We are offering ten printable adult coupons to keep the good loving and fun going. You will be responsible for your own expiration dates and use them at your own risk! Sounds fun, oh trust me, it is!!

Now that we have your attention, go on over to our Facebook page and  post the required information for the giveaway. You don't have to comment multiple times. One time is good!

Good luck to you!!!