Thursday, October 8, 2015

Communication is Key!

We all know, that men can't read minds. Ladies, we get so picky and upset because our husbands don't think like us and don't cooperate. But one thing lack in a lot of marriages is communication. Most divorces happen because the husband and wife didn't communicate with each other. Life situations come and we are so busy that we only talk about the heat of the moment matters. But is that all for a marriage? Do you talk about the good moments? The bad moments. The ups and downs. Goals and achievements. Expanding your family. Finances. Moving into a new home.  They like pillow talk as much as we do.

Listed are 5 reasons of why communication is key in your marriage.

Pray
I put this first because you should always pray. You can pray alone as well as pray with your spouse. Ask God to open up the waves of communication in your marriage. Also, ask God to open your mind to be willing to accept what conversation you are about to have with your spouse. God should always be the foundation in your marriage!

Listen fully and don't interrupt. 
We are both so busy trying to interrupt the other person while they're talking, we're not listening. Especially in a heated argument. But what are you getting out of it? Nothing. You can't resolve something if you don't listen to the instructions to make it better. While your spouse is talking, listen and once it's your turn to talk, ask him to make sure he listens and not interrupt.

Be careful with your tone. 
Yelling. Screaming. Cursing. That's not the way that you would want someone to talk to you. So don't you think he deserves that same respect. Sometimes it's not what we say but how we say it.

Talk at a relaxing time. 
Talking while you're both busy and can't concentrate is not timing. When you all talk, you both need to be open minded and when nothing is around to disturb you.  You all both should be able to concentrate on what the other person is saying. Staying focus is the main thing.

Be open
There will be statements made in the conversation that neither one of you will like, but this is where you have an open mind and be willing to accept what is being sad. Conversating with your spouse is not something to bring each other down, but build up and grow from there.

There is nothing wrong with scheduling a time to talk to your husband. This will help both of you to prepare for the conversation. This can be the first of many. As time goes forward, communicating on a regular basis will build the trust level in your marriage.




Until next time, I'm going to converse with my husband!!!


SMOOCHES!!!

1 comments:

  1. Hi, LaCosta! I appreciate your post on communicating with your husband. My hubby and I have been married for 17 yrs and I still need reminders, sadly, on the right way to discuss things. Thanks for all you do! ~ Kim

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