Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Happy Birthday Jesus and Merry Christmas!

From our family to your family, Merry Christmas! May this holiday season bring cheer, happiness, joy, and most of all love to you and your family!!! Don't forget to tell Jesus Happy Birthday because He is the true reason for the season! Be Blessed! 

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Overcoming the irritations

This was a great meditatin message that came to me from a dear friend that is married as well.  I know you will enjoy it because I know I did!!! 

Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!" - Song of Solomon 2:15 NLT

Thoughts for Today

Sometimes it's not big things that hurt a marriage. Your spouse may not have been unfaithful or abusive. But what about those little annoying habits? What about his or her lack of consideration? "He never remembers my birthday." "She expects me to bounce in the door and pay all kinds of attention to her after I've had a grueling day at work." "He works all the time. He seems to love his job more than me or the children." "She gets her feelings hurt too easily." "If only he'd help me more with the kids and the housework. I work full time too." "She never backs me up when I correct the children."

Any of this sound familiar? You can probably think of a dozen things you wish your spouse would do differently. So how do you handle your frustrations? Do you calmly express your feelings to your spouse and talk it out? Do you let the little annoyances go by, forget them, and move on? Or do you keep track. "Bury them dead" as we discussed Monday?

Consider this …

Don't let the little foxes gnaw away at your marriage relationship. Ask God to help you see things from your spouse's perspective. Be open to talking out your differences. Don't pick up on every one of your spouse's "misdeeds." We are all human. We all blurt out hurtful words without thinking. We all become me-focused at times. Learn to overlook the little irritations. Try to resolve the bigger ones. And in it all, walk in forgiveness.

When something happens that irritates you, think of it in light of your love for your spouse. Ask yourself, "Is it worth making an issue of this?" If the answer is no, choose to forgive and move on. Catch the little foxes before they ruin the vineyard of love!


Father, I know that in my marriage relationship I am sometimes too quick to respond in anger or frustration. Sometimes I find it easy to indulge in self-pity. Help me to have a more mature love. Give me wisdom in each circumstance. Help me know when to let go and move on. In the more serious situations, guide my actions. In every situation, help me walk in forgiveness.Help me not to allow the little foxes to spoil the vine. In Jesus' name . . .
Monday, December 2, 2013

Being thankful on Thanksgiving!!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone.  Thanksgiving is not only a day that you can celebrate when the nation celebrates, but you can do it everyday.  We all know what the normal will be on the dining table: Dressing, turkey, ham, green bean casserole, mac and cheese, dinner rolls, cranberry sauce, and you can not forget the sweet potato/pumpkin pies!  Well you can bring an extra item to the table without even having something physically in your hand....a gratitude of thanks.  You have so much to be thankful for.  Make sure you tell God thank you.  He doesn't have to do it but be "thankful" that He does! 

When you can get some alone time with your spouse today, make sure you tell him thank you.  You don't have to go into a list (but if you want to go right ahead :-)) of what you thanking him for but just say thank you and give him a sweet soft kiss.  The softness of the kiss will leave him wondering what comes in after that kiss.  Make sure you look into his eyes and mean what you say.  Every marriage is not perfect but you can say thank you honey! If you have any kids, make sure you give them a hug and tell them thank you. A lot of children are not with their parents today but yours are and you should be thankful.  Oh and last but not lease, look in the mirror and tell yourself thank you.  Weird???  No because you do so much for the family and sometimes you don't feel like it.  So look, smile and say "thank you (insert your name)"!! 

I am so thankful for so much.  Each and every day is a brand new mercy from God and I can't help but be thankful.  

I pray you all have a blessed and fulfilling thanksgiving. Don't eat to much turkey! :-) 

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Saturday, November 23, 2013

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Friday, November 22, 2013

Love Note Challenge!!!

How many of you remember when you got love notes while you were in school? Did you get them or did you give them or both??? It probably said something like this?  Do you like me?  Circle one….yes or no! Will you go out with me? Circle one….yes or no! Can I be your boyfriend? Circle one….yes or no! Thinking back over this is kind of funny but cute at the same time.  Well think about the time when you dating your spouse before getting married?  Did you ever give him any love notes?  Did you give him any Hallmark cards just because? Well, let’s start that back ladies!!  One thing I have learned in the daily walk of being a wife is that the men want to be loved as well as appreciated.  Sometimes we can be so selfish and not focus on them.  It’s ok to tell your husband in front of others that you appreciate him and that he is the but do you also let him know in private. Telling him and showing him is two different things that can be combined as one with a MAJOR affect to it.

Let’s start a Love Note Challenge! This challenge is for ten (10) days.  If you desire to keep it going, by all means DO!!! You don’t have to stop after the 10 days. I just gave it an amount of days to kick it off. Pull out the sticky notes and get to writing those “love notes”! Put little messages on a sticky note to let him know that you do care and you do love him.  If you want to get creative with it, do it in a scavenger hunt!  Leave notes in certain places with clues that will blow his mind and make the prize a BIG ONE!!! You will be amazed at what the love notes will do to your marriage.  It will bring the cuteness back.  It will bring the romance back.  It will bring your crush back.  It will put a smile on both of your faces.  It will make the daily walk of being married to your PRINCE a great one!   

You could maybe start off by saying “I love you and have a great day at work”. Then maybe later in the day, you can send him a text (and yes a text message can be a love note as well…depends on what you put in the messageJ) telling him that you can’t wait to see him when you get home.  Give him something worth looking forward to. Remind him of why he chose you to be his life partner.  Kick it up a notch.  Heck, if you even want to do “Sex Coupons”…do it!!!!  Put some Hershey Kisses in a sandwich bag and put a little note with it to make him think about your luscious lips!  

One thing I have learned about being married in God’s eyesight is that sex is not a bad thing in marriage.  Sex should only take place while you’re married but a lot of us missed the concept of that memo before getting married…like me.  Hey, yes I am guilty of it and I’m not shame to tell the world. But as I got closer and closer to God and asked for His forgiveness, that’s when he started preparing me for marriage.  You will catch that last sentence later. Make your marriage what you want it to be and how you want it to be.  

A marriage built by Christ, STANDS STRONG! 

Enjoy ladies!!

Enjoy the coupons!!! 
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Saturday, November 9, 2013

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Friday, November 8, 2013

Praying for your husband!!

Do you pray for your family? Do you pray for your husband?  Do you pray to be a better wife? We as women can be sooooo, what's that word, STUBBORN!!!! Yes, even I am calling myself stubborn because we can be at times.  We get so caught on things and just hate to tell our husbands that their right.  They may not be right ALL the time, but there are some times when they are right and we just hate to admit it.  

But on another tip on prayer...don't be so quick to pray for your husband to change.  Why would you want him the way you want him?  You didn't create him and it was a purpose the two of you got married.  You and him makes a whole.  Meaning he is his way and you are you're way.  You're not the same.  Praying for someone else to change may not be the right thing to do because they may not be the ones changing.  It might just be you!! Instead of praying for him to change, pray that he because closer to God.  Pray that God will protect him throughout the day when you are apart from each other.  Pray that  God will bring the two of you closer and closer. Pray that you all will be the light to other marriages and that God shines through it. 

We may not know it, but our husbands need prayer and encouragement every second of the day.  Now ladies admit it, we can be difficult to please, talk to, and hand. So, since the man in the HEAD of the HOUSEHOLD, he has a lot of pressure on him.  Taking care of his house.  Taking care of his wife.  Taking care of the kids.  Fixing the broken things in the house.  Keeping the maintenance up on the car.  Being the ear to hear you complain about your bad day at work.  The shoulder you can cry on when there is no one else. The list goes on and on.  He has so much responsibility we don't even see it.  Well some of us see it but we don't want to recognize it.  Oh and let's not forget that his is a great dad!!! How he takes time out with the kid(s).  How he helps with the homework and dinner when you have to stay late for work or stop by the church.  Really, he is your backbone.  

Just make sure that you show him that you appreciate him.  Always tell him thank you. Tell God thank you for your husband as well because many others are not as fortunate as you are. 

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Wednesday, November 6, 2013

The Season of Thanksgiving!

Every day should be a day of thanksgiving but I think we put a little extra effort into it around this time of the year.  Thanksgiving is on Thursday, November 28 this year and time is fastly approaching. What are you thankful for?  Health? Peace? Joy? Your family? The list can go on and on.  I am thankful for everything.  God did not have to let me see this far and the things I have seen and experience along the way but I am glad that He did.

We can sometimes take the small things for granted.  When I experience my hospital visits, it makes me think.  I then start to talk to God and tell Him that I am sorry for taking this for granted because if it is taken away from me, I would not know how to handle it.  Life can be simple if you allow it to.  There will be things along the way that can throw us off track but it’s up to you to get back on.  We wrestle against so much in our daily lives we loose focus.  But God shows a small sign to remind you hey I’m here to take care of you…just trust Him!!

As we prepare for the Thanksgiving holiday, take a minute and sit down and make a list of what you are thankful for. You can even go as far as putting the good and bad on the list.  I thank God for the bad things because it allows me to learn from it and keep going.  Look around you and realize how blessed you are.  We sometimes get so caught up in material things, that we overlook the natural things.  I will post my list later.  Be blessed and be thankful!!!

Saturday, November 2, 2013

Countdown to the tree! Christmas that is!!!!!

So I decided last year I was going to retire my purple and silver decoration for my Christmas tree. This year I have decided to do.....drum roll and bronze. I think I am also going to incorporate some pine cones, greenery (but not to much because the tree is green.....ha ha), and even some outdoor decor. My husband is a hunter. So I'm thinking that if I incorporate something he loves, besides me, he will be more into the holiday season. He is not the "holiday" person because he thinks people go overboard. The true reason for the holiday season is to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. I'm not taking that away but I do want to do a little decoration. I would also like to do something outside. Not a lot, just something to jazz up the decor on the inside.

Now the coutdown has officially started!!! Woooohooooo. :-) 8 weeks till Christmas; 4 weeks till I put the tree up.

When I was little, we always put the tree up immediately after thanksgiving. The tradition is thanksgiving service on thanksgiving, dinner with family, black Friday shopping, come home and hide the gifts bought, and put the tree up. I really want to stick to that. Well, I'm off to do hang out with the young man of the house and also check out some of the Christmas decorations. I love days like this.

Grabbing my cup of coffee and we are out door!!! Talk to you soon -:)

P.s. this is my tree from last year along with my handsome son.

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Guess who's back...ME!!!

Hello, hello, hello!  It’s been some months since I have been here but I am making my way back into it.  Just been a little busy and a little ill but to God be the Glory, I’m still alive!!!  J

Well, well, well…my favorite time of the year is finally here!!  Holiday season!  The pumpkin spice, vanilla bean, apple crisp, pinecone scents just light up the world and make everything seem ok! I love it! <3  I have done a little fall decoration in my home, not much. But I am glad to say that I did some.  I put some fall leaves, pumpkins, and pumpkin spice candles over the mantle above the fire place and I made a fall monogrammed wreath.  It was so much fun in doing them and it made me feel special because I put a little personal touch on my home. A little special touch of life brings a lot to a home.  Being married with a family we sometimes don’t have the “extra time” to do what we really want to our homes because we are never there and just don’t have the time.  Well, I made the time.  If you don’t, then who will????  It’s not a lot but it’s something.

I love this time of the year because it makes the world calm down a lot and make it a better place.  Think about it: Winter-the beginning of the year…setting goals for the remaining of the year. Spring-getting adjusted to the warm seasons approaching and kids are busy to get ready to get out of school. Summer-to hot and traveling and bar-b-ques. Fall-preparing for the holiday season and shorter days/longer nights…time to settle in!  Now that is my personal interpretation of the seasons because that is how my life is.  But you would have to think about it, that is a good one…lol!

Wives, it’s time to get the house cleaned out; recipes out of the recipe box; holiday shopping.  Now if anybody has a husband like mine, he is not interested in this stuff. This is his favorite time of the year also.  Why????  Hunting Season!!! YES! My husband is a hunter.  If he could do it everyday, all day, he would. So while he is out in the woods finding meat to bring home, lol, all I ask of him is to make sure there is money in the account for me to do something.  Sometimes, I don’t even go any where because I just like to be at peace in my home.  Curled up in a chair with a blanket and scented candles going and something good on TV (preferably on HGTV, Food Network, OWNHD, and of course, Lifetime).  I gather a lot of great ideas from HGTV and Food Network for my own home and of course my favorite website, PINTEREST!! OMG…I am so addicted to pinterest and blogging. It’s a disease but a good one ha ha!

Well, I have to get some work done but I promise I will post more blog posts and recipes.  Check out my next post for a recipe for mozzarella garlic cheese bread!!! It’s so good! Be Blessed wives and make your home, your home!

Saturday, April 13, 2013


Sooooo, I have decided to start back couponing again!   I have never been obsessed with it but I did make sure I clipped them and used them....faithfully!  I was talking with some girlfriends of mine and one of them was working on her binder. Funny thing is right before I we were talking about it, I had just mentioned to my husband that I was going to start back clipping and using coupons.  It may sound crazy but I will be crazy saving money!  YAY!!! Somebody at work ask me when will you have time to clip coupons?  Trust me, anything that will help me save money, I will make time!!!  We do everything else we want why can't I do this?  

Also, I have noticed that there are some really great deals on Livingsocial and Groupon.  You can go to and and sign up to get daily/weekly deals from them and you can purchase them right then.  Now I haven't purchased a lot from them, but the deals I did get I enjoyed them and it was worth it.   Make sure you purchased them before their expire with the site AND the best thing about Living Social is you can share it with your friends and family and if 3 of them purchase them, YOURS IS FREE!!! Free is always better :-)! 

Homemade cleaning products.  Sooooo, I have heard so much lately on the web of how people are making their own cleaning products.  They are clean to the environment and your using what you already have.  Now, I haven't used many homemade cleaning products BUT the ones I have used are:  
1) Baking soda and vinegar (to clean your pipe) instead of using Drano
2) White vinegar and water (to clean windows and mirrors) instead of using Windex
They work out really well because if I am in the mix of cleaning and I don't have the proper products, then I use my homemade products.  When I start using more, I will let you know. 

These are just some tips on helping the Wife, the Mom, the One that keeps the house going, etc.  Anything that I see that works for me, I will share.  Now I'm off to clipping coupons on my Saturday morning!  

Be Blessed! 

Saturday, March 30, 2013

Boneless buffalo wings

Everybody loves Boneless buffalo wings.   It makes a good snack and/or game night meal. Here's my recipe that I'm sharing with you. 

10 chicken tenders (thawed)
1 egg
1/2 cup of milk
2 tspn of salt
2 tspn of black pepper
2 tspn of season salt
1 1/2 cup of floor

Once you rinse the chicken, cut them into half pieces.   Pat them dry with a paper towel.  Whip the egg and milk together in a separate bowl.  

Mix the flour,  salt,  pepper,  and season salt together and that will be your batter. 

Take a couple of pieces of your chicken chunks and dip them in the egg mixture.   After dipping them, place them in the season batter. Make sure fully covered with the floor mixture.  Place the battered chicken in the deep fryer and cook them until they are pretty much floating in the grease after coming for about 10 minutes.    Then you can take your next batch and repeat.  

Now for the sauce.  
1 cup of Frank's Red Hot Sauce. 
1 1/2 tbsp of mustard
1 tbsp of white vinegar

Now mix this all together.   If you like it extra spicy,  add more hot sauce.  

Once you have made your sauce,  take your cooked Boneless wings and place them in a bowl and pour the sauce over them.   Top the bowl up and shake until ALL is covered.  

Once they are all covered,  place them on a serving tray with Ranch and/or Blue Cheese dressing with celery sticks and ENJOY!

Friday, March 15, 2013


Hello world!! It's been a while since I last blogged.  There's been a lot going on both good and bad but we are still together.  If you're married, then you will have good and bad.  It depends on the couple on how each decision is made amongst the couple. We can only grow from the bad things.  I've been praying to God to fix me first because if I only pray for God to fix my husband and my marriage, then to me that is being selfish.  Marriage is not just based on one person but both people in the relationship.  I once read that maybe the problem isn't the other person, it could be you.  So why you are praying to God to fix that person, pray to God to fix you.

Marriage is not easy but it is what you make it.  I make sure I keep God first in my life and marriage because without him, there's nothing.  I always go to God when there is disagreement in the marriage because He will make you calm. Sometimes I don't have to say anything!  Silence is the Best argument beater!!!! It's tough not to say anything but I try to beat it....KEY WORD: TRY! Marriage is how you take it, how you make, and how you see it.  I can't tell you how to do something in your marriage because it might not work for you.  The name of this blog is called "The Journey of being a Wife" not "The Journey of the Perfect Marriage".

SMOOCHES!!! :) :)

Thursday, January 10, 2013

Happy 2 1/2 year anniversary to us!!

So today marks the 2 1/2 year time frame for my husband and I marriage.  We have been together for 4 yrs and we still going strong.   Yes we have our moments but hey who doesn't!   I love him and he loves me.   We both have a strong relationship with God in our lives and marriage and that means a lot.   It was God that brought us together and it is He that will keep us together.   My husband means the world to me and I let him know that as well. 
It is important to ley each other know that you appreciate the other person because of you don't someone else will.  Don't mistreat and/or abuse the marriage.  Also whatever you started to get him,  keep it up (talking to self as well). 
I am going to plan a special night with him!   Can't wait....all smiles.   I'm off to planning :-)!!
Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Is this going to be a "Happy New Year" for my marriage?!?!

2012 brought along some challenging times but we made it.  It was hard but with God, we made it.  There were some things that I did that I'm not pleased with that I know caused the drama and stress.  I am determined to not bring that back into my house.  Certains things I tried to take control of and it blew up in my face (and yes I am admitting this to the world).  But I do love my husband and I love my family and whstever it takes for peace and love to come back to my home.   I am determined to get my house back in order and make it a home again.  I love my husband, Jerry Gaston, Jr and our son, KenDarius.

I have heard from some men that black women don't know how to be submissive to their hhusbands.   Is that true or false? I can only answer for my household.  Its not easy but its what God commanded for the wife to do and be.  I do have to work on being more submissive to my husband.  I love him and I don't want to loose him. So whatever it takes, I will do it.  I have also notice that when he's happy, I'm happy.  This year I am declaring more laughter, happiness, peace, love, joy, understanding, etc for my marriage, my life, my family, and my home. There will not be any dividing in my home.   There will not be any arguments or separation in my home. 

I talk to a lot of women that are married and their not happy in their marriage.   I really hate that because sometimes I just want them to experience the happiness of being married that I experience in mine.   No marriage is perfect and mine is no way prefect but we are striving to do what is right and what it takes to stay happy and married.   What I do in mine is for us and what you do in yours is for you.   Stop comparing and/or trying to be like them and/our better.   Trying to keep up will make you loose your mind,  marriage,  and family.   It's not worth it.  What God has for your marriage and family, is for you. 

Make 2013 the year that brings love back into your marriage and home.   We all have to face challenges in our marriage and daily lives but we can face them. Put God first and sit back and watch what He does! 

Here's to a positive and loving future in 2013 and so on!